After such a physical practice yesterday I anticipated today being more focused on reading about enhancing orgasms. Spoiler Alert— it was a spicy night.
The day started as planned. I was listening to a few podcasts featuring Susan Bratton (intimacy expert to millions). She confirmed over an over that most women don’t climax during intercourse, at least not from the penis in the vagina alone. That was comforting. There was something about Susan that I’m really drawn to. It’s like she’s your mom or grandma and genuinely wants to help you and can’t help but call you sweetie or darling. She’s endearing. Susan affirmed that EVERYONE can have vaginal orgasms, it’s just a matter of coaxing the body into experiencing them. BRING IT ON. One of her signature techniques in called “Thrust in Time.” Essentially it’s a slow and fast and shallow and deep (P in V) penetration strategy that involves counting.
The day was over and as I lay in my pajamas, I thought I’d give myself an oil massage, mostly because my skin was feeling dry. It wasn’t intended to be a sensual experience but as I was massing my breasts my husband walked in and immediately took action. Before I knew it he was going down on me. Which I love and always orgasm from. As we moved into more traditional sex, I thought… “Wait, we should try “thrust in time.” So we did! He loved it. He said his orgasm was more powerful than ever. I didn’t cum but the sensations were different. I don’t fully know how to articulate those sensations yet. All positive. Not orgasmic. Definitely enjoyable.